My son was doing well — at least, that’s what it looked like. As a first-time homeschool mom, I was completely new to all of this. And to be honest,
English isn’t even my first language. Teaching in English felt overwhelming. I wasn’t confident in explaining things myself — I wanted something expert-led and dependable.
“I didn’t want to guess. I wanted a system I could follow — and trust.”So I did what many parents do. I read reviews. I watched homeschool YouTube channels. I searched through Facebook groups.
Abeka kept coming up as a top choice — structured, traditional, and academically strong. And what gave me the most relief?
It came with video lessons. That meant I didn’t have to teach everything on my own. My son could watch a trained teacher walk him through the content, and I could just follow along.
“It felt like I had backup. I thought — this is perfect for someone like me.”Yes, I saw a few comments saying
“Abeka didn’t work for us” — especially in math. But no one really explained why. And honestly, it all looked so polished, so professional, so safe. So I chose it with confidence. For two full years, my son completed every lesson. His scores were high. But something didn’t feel right. He froze when I asked him to add in his head. He counted on his fingers. He couldn’t group numbers — even with manipulatives. And most of all, he couldn’t explain what he was doing. That’s when I started to ask myself the question I’d been avoiding:
What if he’s learning math — but not learning to think?Abeka excels at delivering structured, systematic content. But here's what I eventually realized: curriculum alone can't develop the
underlying thinking skills that make math actually make sense to a child. And when those skills are missing, even the best lessons won't stick.